I use the word, I'm really not a fan. It's a common hypocrisy that is evident in everyday life. I always feel some kind of way as soon as the word leaves my lips. I am proud to say that I have drastically reduced my usage of this word and feel better for it.
What I can say is that I absolutely do not tolerate anybody calling me a bitch. I don't relate it to being a term of endearment from a girlfriend. "Oh, yeah that's my girl, that's my bitch." Um, no ma'am. I am not your bitch or anyone else's.
Thanks to @berealblackforme on Twitter, I have also virtually eliminated my use of the word "nigger" or any other derivative. Yes, I still slip on occasional, but again always feel horribly afterwards. It's easy to make excuses and exceptions, but I try to eliminate them all.
I'm not a prude by any means and I spit my fair share of swear words (especially when driving - folks be IRKING me!!), but one thing I have made leaps and bounds with is saying those two words. I didn't look at it from an afro-centric, feminist viewpoint. I simply asked myself one question: How would I feel if someone (of ANY race) called me those two words? Answer: Jail.
Ladies, if you don't want a man calling you a bitch (or hoe), don't let a woman call you a bitch - in any form or fashion. A bitch is a bitch and it is not a compliment in my book.
Black people, if you don't want people of other races calling you a nigger (or any other spelling or derivative), stop calling yourselves one.
What are your thoughts?
Thursday, September 1, 2011
You Wonder Why They Called You Bitch
4 comments:
I'm with you, Eryn. I don't understand when ladies call each other bitches in a friendly manner. To me, bitch has never been a cordial greeting. It's irritating to me . As for nigger I don't really like this word either. I don't use it. It's a word that I feel has no place in regular conversation.
I appreciate you, sis.
Be real black for me...
The crass use of words with malice or not says more about the user than the intended target. Don't give words any more power than they deserve. I say know who you are and keep it moving.
You definitely have to know who you are to know you're above those names. At the same time, allowing someone to call you those names, regardless of context, should be unacceptable. One shouldn't say "I know who I am", but still allow people to call him or her out of their name. I reject it mentally and vocally.
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